Loyalty goes both ways.

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As leaders, we want and often expect loyalty from those around us. In fact, many leaders place loyalty among the top attributes that they seek out and reward in others. 

Remember that loyalty is something that is earned, not something you are entitled to. ‎It goes both ways. The best way to engender loyalty in others is to demonstrate that you're loyal to them - that you have their backs and have their best interest in mind. This creates a sense of safety and appreciation that inspires them to respond in kind. You cannot demand or command loyalty in others and expect it to be authentic and sustainable. 

Oftentimes, being loyal means putting yourself on the line for someone, so be sure that your loyalty is true and justified. Additionally, be careful not to place so much emphasis on loyalty that you develop a blind spot to other aspects of a person.  It’s easy to overlook potential issues when you believe someone is loyal.  Strong leaders keep their eyes wide open.

Today, ask yourself: how am I inspiring and earning loyalty in others, and am I keep a balanced perspective about those who are loyal to me?  

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March 2012: Beware of suck-ups and yes-men.

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It’s human nature to gravitate to people who support, encourage and agree with us.  But this can be a fatal leadership mistake. 

Suck-ups always tell us that we’re right.  They make us feel smart.  They make us feel safe.  We trust them.

Not so fast. When we get indiscriminate praise from those around us, it signals that we’re either discouraging honest, candid feedback, or that people are attempting to manipulate us by coddling favor and winning our trust.  Either way, we end up with a distorted view of reality.

Part of being an authentic leader is recognizing that we have blind spots, and then seeking – and accepting – critical feedback from trusted advisors to ensure we keep a balanced perspective.   Sometimes the most loyal colleagues are those who are courageous and caring enough to tell it to us straight.  To tell us when we’ve stepped in it; to advise that a mid-course correction may be necessary.  And, yes, to tell us when we’ve done a good job.

Today, ask yourself….are you surrounded by suck-ups?  If so, what’s that telling you?