When we’ve been successful in a job or field, we tend to become defined by it.  And over time, we begin to believe that that is the only thing we’re suited to do.  In essence, we create boundaries around ourselves; imaginary lines that we dare not cross.

These limiting beliefs can get in the way of our personal and professional growth.  They become blinders, disabling our ability to see and seize possibilities.

Instead of thinking of your talent and potential in terms of your functional role, consider your inherent gifts, skills and attributes that are “transferable” -- that can apply to other fields, roles, and disciplines.  Are you a great negotiator? Do you have the gift of persuasiveness? Are you a maven with details? A great project manager? Can you make the complex simple? Are you a master problem solver? An outstanding communicator?

When you start to see yourself in this broader context, new possibilities begin to emerge. You begin to erase those imaginary lines that could be holding you back from seizing opportunities and realizing your full potential. This kind of reflection and analysis is not only healthy, it’s also particularly helpful during times of change.  

In social or business settings, we often feel like we have to put on a mask – pretend to be someone other than ourselves – to fit in, be accepted and succeed.  This play-acting is not only exhausting, it’s risky. People quickly sense disingenuousness, and nothing is more undermining to your leadership.  If those around you believe you are fake, they will not trust you, much less follow you.

Indeed, trust is the bedrock of all relationships.  As leaders (whether we’re leading others or simply leading our lives), our ability to foster productive relationships hinges on whether we are authentic and congruent – acting with integrity.

Each of us is born with an inner compass - an intuitive sense for what's right and wrong. As you use this compass to make decisions, align who you are with what you do.  Make sure your personal values are evident.  When people sense that you are genuine…a real person trying to make a real difference…you will receive positive reinforcement, loyalty and support.‎  

Do not fake it.  Shakespeare said it best: “To thine own self be true.”  

As we turn the page on a new year, the focus tends to be on setting new goals, making new choices, creating change. These good intentions often fall to an inevitable fate, slipping away like sandcastles on shore. Before we know it, our “resolutions” have vanished because big change is hard and requires more than an intention to take hold.

We often overlook the fact that change doesn’t have to be dramatic to be impactful.  In fact, you will increase the chances of making your change stick if you take small steps forward, building on what you already have. This creates confidence and momentum that help propel and sustain the modifications you’re trying to make.

You have strengths and qualities that are already at the core of you and your leadership.  What if you became more focused and purposeful about something you already do well?  How could you leverage that strength more meaningfully to make a greater difference to your relationships and your work? It’s human nature to focus more on our weaknesses than our strengths.  Today, consider which assets you can “bring up a notch” to benefit your family, your colleagues and your business.  It could be the best resolution you’ve ever made.